“Fitting in is about assessing a situation and becoming who you need to be in order to be accepted. Belonging, on the other hand, doesn’t require us to change who we are; it requires us to be who we are.”
― Brené Brown
Ahhh, class reunions the best incentive to lose a few pounds.
I was asked to help with planning mine this year, and although I had no intention of going to it, I surprised myself and said yes, that might be fun.
I skated through high school not really participating in sports, or clubs or much other than Friday and Saturday night parties.
I strived to be cool -- I wasn’t! I hung out in the art wing. I laughed a lot, cried some. I wasn’t the best student, I wasn’t the worse.
Hung out with some amazing friends, floated under the radar mostly wanting to blend in.
Never felt like I belonged because I moved in to the community in eighth grade . Leaving behind all the wonderful coolness my siblings had forged in the school I had left. Repeating the story I would have been happier if left back at my old school. I wore it as an armor and I wore it well.
I was a puppet to the critics in my head, repeating you are not pretty enough, smart enough, you are not ever enough.
Matter of fact when a picture of the runners up for homecoming queen appeared on the reunion Facebook page, they returned: not enough! why are you even doing doing this reunion thing?
My favorite critic, Who do you think you are ? showed up too.
I thanked the critics and told them I am safe. I can handle this now. I do not try to fit in. I show up, lean in, and participate.
Being an introvert that really loves people is ok. I know I am capable,brave and significant even when it feels like I am not.
I still love to do art, I still surround myself with amazing friends.
I know I do not have to do this reunion thing, but I finally feel like I belong, in my own skin.
Thank you Heidi for asking me to join.
Do you ever battle with inner critics?