“Family traditions counter alienation and confusion. They help us define who we are; they provide something steady, reliable and safe in a confusing world.”
I love traditions, not the just ordinary ones, the ones that make you laugh and feel all warm inside.
My family unit of five has a hug that that encircles all of us and a nonsensical chant that goes with it. We all know the simple words, and we rarely do it . It is saved for the right moment. Sometimes it is a joyous celebration, sometimes when our hearts are heavy. There is power and connection and pure love in that group hug.
I have an ugly quilt that was won at a Craft Bazar and my sister-in-law and I exchange it back and forth in most unusual ways. I am guilty of placing it in her bed, leaving it in her office. I have received it wrapped around a birthday present, tucked in my car and home. Giggles abound every time it appears.
My sister and I exchange beekly dots after our mammograms. They are sent in a card, a reminder to take care of ourselves and that we have someone who we want to take care of ourself for.
My daughter and I exchange a small candle topper that is made of a flowery fabric . It closely resembles an old fashioned bonnet, but it is small enough to fit in the palm of your hand. Because we are often in each others homes it get tucked in the zaniest places. I just crack up when I find it. She has it now but I won't tell you where I hid it!
When we were children my mom always started the game of putting your finger to the side of your nose, the last one to notice and look up from their dinner plate had to do the dishes. Sometimes as I gather with my siblings at breakfast, someone will start with the finger at the side of the nose and I feel a warm glow, kind of like going home again.
What are the traditions or rituals that you cherish?